
You might say, “I’m still in love, my ex isn’t.” This is a
difficult situation. First of all, you
don’t really know that your ex is not still in love with you, too. Your ex may have claimed to not love you
anymore, and that’s possible. But it’s
also possible that he or she still harbors feelings for you. Many couples who still love each other very
much break up for other reasons.
If you can honestly say, I’m still in love my ex, there’s a
good chance your ex might still love you.
But that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s a good idea to try to get back
together. You broke up for a
reason. Even if you didn’t want to break
up and the break off was entirely your ex’s doing, really think hard about
things. It’s rare that a person can’t
think back and see reasons why the break-up might be for the best. It isn’t always easy right at first when
you’re still in so much pain from the break-up, but with time you’ll probably
see that the break-up might even be good for you.
If the break-up was mutual and now you’re having a hard time
because you feel “I’m still in love, my ex should be here with me,” then it’s
even more important that you examine why you agreed to the break-up in the
first place. Yes, there is a chance that
a mutual split was a mistake. But if
you’ll really look back at the reasons you both had for calling a halt to the relationship, you might find that’s better to love your ex from afar and work
through the sadness rather than try to rekindle the romance.
“I’m still in love; my ex even wants to get back
together.” While this might make you
feel very hopeful that the two of you might be able to work things out and live
happily ever after, don’t be fooled into thinking that it will be easy. The reasons you broke up are still
there. If you get back together, what
will change? Your relationship might go
along well for a while because you’re both so happy to be back together.
If you broke up thinking, I’m still in love my ex, and he or
she thought the same so you got back together, you’ll go through a honeymoon
period just as you did when you were a new couple. You’ll both feel like you saved the
relationship and kept each other from making a horrible mistake. But that feel-good honeymoon period will wear
off eventually. And then what will you do?
How are you going to prevent the problems that caused you to
break up in the first place from coming back and making you want to part ways
again? Couples counseling is a good option.
If you think, “I’m still in love my ex and want him or her back,” then
consider counseling to keep old problems from splitting you up again later.
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