If you’ve ever had your love break up you know how painful
it is. And if you thought back after the
relationship ended, you probably saw all the signs that you didn’t recognize
before. If you’ll remember those signs and keep them in mind, they can help you
prevent a break up in the future. And
they can also help you get back together after a split.
One sure sign of impending love break up is the lack of
physical contact. This doesn’t just mean sex.
If your partner suddenly stops having an interest in sex, that’s a good
sign that a break up is coming. But the
normal flow and rhythm of a relationship has times when there’s lots of sex and
times when there’s not much. This is natural.
A love break up is probably on the horizon though, if your
partner stops holding your hand for no apparent reason. Or he or she stops putting an arm over your
shoulder at the movies or in public when he or she always did it before. Any
sudden changes like not touching you much outside the bedroom when your partner
was always very affectionate before could signal problems.
If it goes beyond not touching to the person actually
becoming uncomfortable at your touch, then you definitely need to have a
conversation with your partner about what’s going on. Don’t just assume that because your partner
flinched away from your touch that there’s about to be a love break up,
though. Many things can cause a person
to not want to be touched at any given moment.
A person might have been thinking of something else and been
surprised or startled by the touch. He
or she might think that your touch signals that it’s time to have sex, if
you’re not very affectionate except when you want to be intimate. And maybe your partner isn’t in the mood for
sex now and chose to show you that by moving away from your touch. That doesn’t mean you’re headed for a love
break up.
Your partner might simply not feel good. Every change in a
person’s behavior doesn’t signal an impending love break up or even anything
wrong with the relationship. You have to
watch them closely for a while to determine if some behavior is an occasional
thing, something brought on only during certain times, or if it’s a permanent
part of the person’s make up.
Catching your partner in lies, even what seem like small and
harmless ones, could be a sign of problems, too. After all, if a lie is small
and harmless, why tell it in the first place?
Where there’s one tiny lie, larger and more damaging lies can grow.
Don’t become convinced it’s a love break up right away though. People lie about
many things that aren’t bad, like surprise parties and reunions. Your partner might be trying to keep a
harmless and fun secret like that, instead of scheming about a love break up.
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