Are you having trouble get over the guy? Whether he dumped you or you broke up with
him, letting go of someone who you had a close relationship is very
difficult. There is a space in your
heart as well as a space in your life that are not quickly filled with anything
or anyone else. Yet, people do get over
a relationship. Here are five steps to
get over guy you still like.
First, you need to let out the hurt. Know that it is okay to cry when you are
trying to get over the guy. Some people
keep a journal of their experiences because writing about the pain helps.
One thing that I have seen some people do that is very
effective is to write a long letter about the relationship to their ex
boyfriend. Talk about the good times and
bad. Talk about the relationship and how
he hurt you. Let it all out. When you have finished the letter, burn
it. That’s right. Don't even think about sending it to your
ex. Instead, let flames consume the
letter. That provides excellent closure
to the relationship.
Next, you have to decide that the relationship is really
over. If you hold on to the thought that
he will change and come back to you, you will never get over this guy and move
on.
Do something that symbolizes the finality of the end of therelationship. A good example of this is
to exchange all of the personal property that you have of the others. Don't even keep the over sized t-shirt of his
that is so comfortable for sleeping in.
And, if there are things too minor to exchange (like a toothbrush), throw
them away. Clear your place of all of
his things. It is a way of clearing him
from your life.
You need to depend on your friends through this time. Until you meet your husband, guys will come
and go, but your girlfriends are forever.
If you have been in a hot and heavy relationship, you may have
inadvertently ignored your friends for a time.
Not only will your girls help you get over guy, but reconnecting will be
good for your social life.
Also, your girlfriends will have had similar experiences to
your break up. Sharing their pain will
help you understand that, however bad the hurt you are experiencing, others
have survived and you will too.
You will probably have extra time on your hands now that you
have broken up. You used to spend a lot of
time with your ex. Use this time
productively to get over guy. Go to the
gym and get your body in shape. Take up
a new hobby.
One of the best things you can do during this period is to
join a group or a class. Not only does a
class take up the time you would have spent with your ex, but it also
introduces you to a new circle of friends.
And, that brings me to my last point, when you want to getover guy, the best thing you can do is move on.
Between your old friends, the new friends you make in your class or
hobby, and the activities you do to fill up your time, you will emerge as a new
person.
Moving on is the best way to get over guy.
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